The stress of dealing with Andy’s and my health issues caught up with me yesterday.
After dialysis and eating lunch, I fell asleep on my glide rocker
Twelve hours later, as best I can tell, I woke up. I had seen Andy once before I fell asleep, but I didn’t have my smartphone to take a photo or two.
After I woke up. I medicated Andy.
I don’t want to alarm you, but reality is he hasn’t shown much improvement in the past days, if any. I have look objectively, realistically at what this means to Andy.
I’ve had tears thinking about alternatives to the status quo.
I’ve had Andy since he was two months old. Virtually his whole life is tied to mine for 14 and a half years. That has included some of the best kitty times of my life.
Now I have to consider what’s best for Andy, even if it tears my heart out.
Prayers for you both.
I do feel for you, Doug
It’s always a tough decision to make, especially since love is what tears us up and makes us want to do the best for our feline family members. Andy may show you when it’s time, but meanwhile, take care of yourself and trust in your feelings, however tangled they seem right now. When Sunny passed, I felt like too many people in RL weighed in, and one friend really pressured me to “speed things up.” I don’t think she realizes how much it hurt, and to this day I don’t feel that close to her.
I would agree with another comment above that you could get a caregiver with experience in kitty care to help with Andy. You have a lot to deal with now.
I’m sorry Doug. My thoughts are with you both.
I am sorry Andy hasn’t improved much. I will keep praying for you both.
Sending prayers and love
And don’t let yourself feel pressured to do something that you can’t take back.
Is there someone who could watch him temporarily while you get back on your feet?
I don’t know anyone, though give thought of asking at the animal clinic.
Doug
Doug, thoughts and prayers are always with you and Andy. It is a very personal, and difficult, decision and as you indicated, best not to make one while feeling intense emotions. You may have options, including surrendering him to someone who can continue his care while you take care of yourself. I think I remember you have someone that would take him on if something happened to you. You may be able to still visit him or at least get updates. But only you can decide what is best for you both. Your community here will support you, whatever your decision may be.
Yes, Tara. I don’t know if she is on Aplliance still.
Doug
It is probably a good time to check on her and inquire whether she is still willing, if you need her.
I keep praying for you both.
Purrs for you and Andy, Doug.
Thank you.
Doug
So glad you were able to get that good rest, Doug… and hopefully Andy slept well too. Doug, you are joined by a large community the world over, who love their dear companion animals… and know that the hardest thing to do, is sometimes what is the best for our beloved animals. Your great love for Andy, and his love for you.. and your good veterinarian team… all of this will let you know what is best … and when… for Andy… your community here on your site loves Andy right along with you.
I hope the best answer forms itself.
Doug
Oh no, that’s so sad. Wish I knew what to say. Lots of love to you both. ♥️♥️♥️
I am too sad thinking about this.
Doug
That is a difficult decision when the time comes….never without a flood of love and emotions…..your mind needed the rest I am thinking…..be well chuq
Thank you, chuq. I hope I don’t have to do it.
Doug
My heart is with you. I’m at the same spot with Morgan. It’s all about quality of life and it’s a hard decision. Sending much love and hugs.
That’s my biggest worry. I have too much emotion at this time to decide what’s best. I hope my head it clear Wednesday when Andy has a new appointment.
Doug
Perhaps the vet can guide you. I’ve relied on them to either confirm it was time or there was something else to try.